Urban Leadership Foundation

10 Rules for Respect

A communication covenant to help leaders build trust.

Proverbs 25:9–15; Ephesians 4:15–16

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1. If I have a problem with another person, I will go to him privately.

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2. If someone has a problem with me, I want him to come to me privately and will try to be open when he comes.

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3. If someone has a problem with me, and comes to you, send the person to me. (I’ll do the same for you.)

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4. If someone hesitates to come to me, say, “Let’s go together. I’m sure he’ll see us about this.” (I’ll do the same for you.)

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5. Be careful about how you interpret me—I’d rather do that.

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6. I will be careful about how I interpret you.

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7. If it’s confidential, I won’t tell. (Unless someone is harming himself or someone else.)

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8. I won’t send or pay attention to unsigned letters or notes. Information should always travel with a person’s name so it can be cleared up if necessary.

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9. I will not manipulate; I will not be manipulated.

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10. When in doubt, I will bring up my concern or question.

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