Ways of Dealing with Bitterness

  1. Know that it destroys: See to it that no root of bitterness springs up and destroys many
  2. Recognize it: The heart knows its own bitterness and no stranger shares its joy.
  3. Invoke an alternative set of responses: Proverbs 25:9–15
  4. Cut it off and replace it with alternative behavior.  Ephesians 4:15–16. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with all forms of malice.  Be kind and compassionate.

 

 

Preventing bitternesses
Preventing the sources of bitterness is a good way to go. These are some of the rules that have transformed the way some prevent bitterness in the workplace. Rank yourself first, then enter the discussion below.

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1. If I have a problem with another person, I will go to him privately.

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2. If someone has a problem with me, I want him to come to me privately and will try to be open when he comes.

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3. If someone has a problem with me, and comes to you, send the person to me. (I’ll do the same for you.)

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4. I will seek to work within clear structures, so that decisions are seen as just.

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5. When falsely accused, I will speak truth but will ot seek to defend myself, as tht generally will put someone else down.

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Discuss

1. Which of the above rules do we generally live by? Which do we need to observe more closely?

2. What rules would you suggest we add to this list?